Praise junkies and a growth mindset may sound like an unusual pairing, but together they highlight how children respond to praise and motivation. The question for parents and teachers is whether kids should strive for external rewards, like compliments and approval, or internal rewards, such as pride in their own effort. At First Congregational Preschool in Meriden, CT, we believe lasting success comes from within. Children thrive when they feel proud of their effort, not just the outcome. When kids develop a growth mindset, they learn that hard work, persistence, and practice are what lead to success. This is why it’s important to praise the effort, not only the finished product.

Why Praise Junkies and a Growth Mindset, Focus on Effort

When we praise only the result—the drawing, the test score, or the evaluation—we may unintentionally send the message that appearance is more valuable than effort. But when we praise effort, we show children that what matters most is trying, improving, and developing new skills.

Children who are recognized for their effort feel empowered. They believe they can try new things, even those outside their comfort zone. On the other hand, too much praise for things beyond their control can lead to discouragement and even fear of failure.

At our preschool, we encourage families to focus on the process of learning rather than the product. This supports children in becoming resilient, confident, and self-motivated learners.

How Praise Junkies and a Growth Mindset Shape Children’s Success

Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck introduced the idea of fixed versus growth mindsets.

• Children with a fixed mindset believe abilities are natural. You’re either born with them or not.
• Children with a growth mindset believe persistence, effort, and practice are the keys to overcoming challenges.

To learn more about Dr Dewek’s work on fixed versus growth mindset, check her book: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

This difference can shape how children approach school, friendships, and life. When children are taught to value effort, they develop perseverance, determination, and the ability to move on from mistakes.

At First Congregational Preschool in Meriden, CT, our curriculum and teaching methods are designed to nurture a growth mindset from the earliest years. Learn more about our curriculum here.

3 Ideas to Praise Effort Effectively

Here are three simple but powerful strategies to help children develop a healthy relationship with praise:

1. Praise Process, Not the Outcome

Praise the work children put in – their concentration, persistence, problem-solving, and self-correction, rather than only the final product. For example, “I like how carefully you colored that picture” is more effective than “That picture is perfect.”

2. Be Specific and Sincere

Generic phrases like “good job” give little feedback. Instead, use specific and genuine praise that highlights effort: “You kept trying even when the puzzle was tricky. That shows determination!” Children quickly notice insincere praise, so it’s important to mean what you say.

3. Encourage Resilience Through Praise

Praising effort rather than natural talent helps children understand that skills grow with time. This builds confidence and teaches them that mistakes are part of learning. Resilient children are better able to take risks, learn from setbacks, and keep moving forward.

Final Thoughts on Praise Junkies

Being mindful of how we praise children makes a lifelong difference. Instead of creating praise junkies who rely on external validation, we can raise confident, motivated learners who take pride in their effort and growth.

At First Congregational Preschool in Meriden, CT, we are committed to fostering independence, resilience, and a love of learning. To learn more about our programs and philosophy, visit our About Us page.